Have you ever wondered what you think about who you are? Many people are taught that their self-worth depends on their accomplishments, and their value in life is due to their contributions to society. When we do well, we are awesome; when that does not happen, we are losers.
Is it any wonder an executive with a college education working in a high-rise building making a six-figure income feels like he is on top of the world? Conversely, a homeless man who does not know where his next meal will come from is viewed by many as being worthless? Is our human value so tied to our accomplishments that you are a failure when you fail to achieve?
The mentality of “self-worth based on accomplishment” is dangerous. In the movie “Trading Places” with Dan Aykroyd and Eddie Murphy, Aykroyd plays a wealthy Wall Street Investment Specialist working on Wall Street and enjoying the best money can offer. He has a beautiful place to live, nice clothes, an excellent job, and high-society friends. His self-esteem revolves around his work accomplishments. Eddie Murphy plays a broke street-hustler who is out there every day trying to find his next patsy for one of his schemes.
In the film, their roles are reversed, and Murphy becomes the Wall Street hotshot and has all the advantages Aykroyd once enjoyed. Meanwhile, Aykroyd becomes homeless and destitute. When Aykroyd attempts to seek help from people in his past to restore his position and status at work in their world, he learns he is no longer welcome.
The movie depicts how conditioned we are to be attached to our social roles. Parents may ask children questions like “how did you do on your test at school today or did you make the basketball team,” and the answers for the child dictate acceptance for succeeding or rejection for failure. Parents are not trying to make their children feel bad; they are just monitoring actions and results. This conditions children to associate accomplishment with achievement.
What if I told you that you are successful not because of what you do but because you are. You are a person with unlimited potential and endless opportunities to advance your dreams. You should do great things in your life, but you don’t have to do great things to be a great person. When you were born, you were “fearfully and wonderfully made,” which entitles you to the benefits of being alive in this world. Being a success is not what you do; it is who you are.
On this journey to success, keep in mind that success is not a journey or a destination. Success is more a state of being. Create within your mind that you are already successful because you are here. All the world gets to see is an extension of what that success means.
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AUTHOR: Jeffery Davis